Effectively Improve Your Communication Skills.

Recently, I heard some people say, "communication is very simple", I do not agree.

Conversation is very simple, but communication means sharing or sharing with others, which requires higher skills.

Communicating with people requires us to listen and speak cleverly instead of talking without fear.

It is even more difficult to communicate with those who are afraid, angry or frustrated, because under the control of this emotion, we will be more helpless.

But no matter at home or at work, don't despair or give up your communication barriers.

The better communicators have been trained one by one.

Here we have provided you with some small tips for your reference.

Even if the other person appears to be angry with you, do not fight him back.

Other people's emotions or reactions are likely to be caused by fear or frustration.

Take a deep breath and quietly count to 10, letting the other person vent his emotions until he is willing to tell what he is really thinking.

You don't have to know all the answers.

It's also good to say "I don't know".

If you want to know something, say it out and say what you think.

Or you are willing to work with the other person to find out the answer to the problem.

React positively to facts or feelings without conflicting feelings.

For example, "tell me more about what you care about" or "I know your loss" is better than saying, "Hello, I'm working" or "it's not my job".

Grasp every opportunity of communication, because you may be alienated from others because of your little absent mindedness.

People want to hear if you agree with them more than you think.

Many people are complaining that people do not listen to their words, but they forget that they themselves do not listen to others.

You can give your full opinion to show that you are listening and say like this: A., "tell me more about what you care about" B. "what is your concern about something?"

C. "I am very interested in what you said just now. Can you tell me what led you to believe it so much?"

D., "Why are you so satisfied with something?"

Remember that what others say and what we hear may lead to deviations in understanding.

Our own analysis, assumptions, judgments and beliefs may distort the facts we hear.

To ensure that you really understand, repeat what you hear and think, and ask, "do I understand correctly?"

If you have an emotional reaction to someone, say it directly and ask for more information: "I may not fully understand you. I understand it in my own way. I think what you are talking about is the meaning of a certain person. Is that what you mean?"

Confess your troubles and mistakes.

Commit yourself to a deadline. If you need help from others, use your energy to influence them.

For example, if you want to update someone's computer and work in her office, you can say, "I know it's impolite to disturb you at this inconvenient time, but I will appreciate your cooperation."

Our maintenance work will restore your working system to normal. We will be there at 3 o'clock p.m., and will finish work at 5 o'clock. "

If no one asks you, don't point fingers.

Knowing that it would be good for someone to speak out, but not to speak, is really a scratching head.

In a euphemistic way of expression, such as "may be..."

Or "I have encountered such a similar situation. If so, I can help you solve it. If you think it is useful, I would like to share with you more of my experience."

All of this is much better than what you said, "what should you do?"

Seek common ground while reserving differences.

What do you both like (as far as possible)?

Put your opinions in order to find common ground.

For example, "I think this plan can make you successful."

Remember that change can put pressure on people.

Use your passion to influence your employees, and they will not change and lose control.

In this chaotic world, this can make our mediocre life more warm.

So if you are around someone, or you need him to do something for you, tell him whenever you need help.

If possible, tell him you want to help him.

Active thinking and concentrated energy.

From the point of view of problems, we always start from ourselves, or give our experience based on the environment.

Many people who are considered successful, including professional athletes and literati, have positive thoughts.

Ask yourself, "where is this good thing?"

Or "what can I learn from here?"

To maintain a positive state.

Don't forget to take different pressure reducing methods to make your work more enjoyable.

Most people, including yourself, are self centred.

This is not a bad thing, so that we can protect ourselves.

Do not assume who will know your selfishness, tell you what is most important to you, and ask others what is most important to them, which will lay a good foundation for your communication.

Improve your listening skills.

Many people think that they are good at hearing, but the fact is that most people do not listen at all - they just say, and then think about what to say next.

Listening means asking good questions and eliminating distractions, such as what to say next, next to whom to see, what's going on outside.

If someone is talking with someone, it's often because his heart is hiding fear. What they want you to do is to talk real and friendly.